My Specs and config:
Asus Rampage V Extreme X99 motherboard
i7 6950x 10 core 4.4Ghz OC
32GB 3200Mhz 14-14-28 1T RAM
RTX3090 (Just got this in January, was 1080Ti since 2018-19)
Windows 10 Pro x64 20H2 Build 19042.985
Monitor: 65HU9000 4k TV (2014) HDMI 2.0
Intel 750 1.2TB SSD PCI-E 4x
Aquantia AQC107 10GB Ethernet Adapter PCI-E 4x
Like I said, I've had the random disconnect issue for a very, very long time. The fix above has solved the issue for me for about 10 hours of playtime so far. I applied this a few days ago.
In my BIOS settings I've got my PCI-E set to Gen 3. Also I have ASPM PCI-E power saving disabled, in Windows power management as well the BIOS I believe. Besides this issue this PC works flawlessly. I currently have the latest Nvidia driver installed. I have been mostly free of the Nvidia issue that causes frame drops with newer graphics cards. Hope this helps others who run into issues.